My career or his? – 6 Unconventional Considerations to Answer this Challenge

All lady bosses who fall in love with a talented man ask themselves “my career or his?” at some point in their life. When either of them gets a remarkable job offer this might pop up. Becoming parents is another moment to consider this possibility.

Today I offer you here some considerations to answer this challenge

Managing your career path is your responsibility. This is a brilliant opportunity to develop remarkable leadership skills. Forget about blame or guilt. You are the CEO of your own life. Show up. Be a leader.

You are not a victim of your partner. Don’t prioritize his career to please him or keep him.

You are not a bad person by choosing for yourself. You will grow closer together the more authentic you are.

Forget about what everyone would advise you. Take a deep breath and connect with your own wisdom. Visualize your ideal life. You have just one life. How would you like it to be. Think about what excites you and energizes you.

Make a picture of your ideal day. Here I offer you a visualization for it,

​Rejoice on that vision. Come back to your now and consider steps to bridge the gap between today and your ideal day. Consider which choice could accelerate your ideal future: his career or yours.

After a 3 decades career I can tell you that I’ve learnt tremendously by radical and painful changes in my career and life. Moving country (and dumping my boyfriend) expanded my vision of life and business. Choosing for his career around the diapers time was a blessing for me. Motherhood left me stronger. Post natal depression made me better.

All those changed where uncomfortable. If you want to grow as a leader and as a women, you need to be comfortable with being uncomfortable.

Scenario Planning is a future envisioning technique created by Shell. This technique is based in choosing 2 variables as key for decision making. In your case it could be: living together, long distance relationship, kids now, kids later, living in x or y.

You create a 2x2 matrix and develop the scenario of that combination. Get into that scenario. Feel what you like and what you hate about it.

This is brilliant as you have a tool to communicate with him. This will allow you both to share their views on the intersection of your ideal life.

Ask for help.

Look for someone who already has taken a similar decision. If you want me to be your mentor, let’s talk.

Once you make the choice, embrace it. See all that is good in it. Look for all the possibilities and positive aspects of it. Don’t allow blame to creep in. Remember that you are the boss, not a weak victim of a wicked monster.

​All this is worthless without action. Let’s use the comments below to solidify your future. Think about which of these points touch your heart.

Which consideration touch your heart?

Which one will you use now? ​

Please do be as detailed as possible. You can be the inspiration that other readers need.

Thank you for reading, sharing and commenting. Interacting with you is so energizing for me.

Wishing you a wonderful week